Teaching children the importance of biblical obedience is vital in parenting. Significantly, it’s good to keep in mind that we sin against a holy, heavenly Father just like our kids do. If your child does sin against you by disobeying, a good question to ask yourself daily is this: “Am I responding the way my Heavenly Father would respond to me when I sin against Him?” We need to forgive that child graciously after they have confessed the sin and repented. We as parents are responsible for our account before the Lord.
Before we begin, let’s start with the Word of God about obedience and parenting.
Ephesians 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Romans 5:19 For as by the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man’s obedience the many will be made righteous.
Romans 6:16 Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?
1. Immediately — As parents, we instruct our children to do tasks ~ whether big or small ~ and most tasks are to be done right away.
Wrong: “Okay, Dad/Mom, I’ll do that, but in my time frame. In thirty minutes, I’ll do it.”
Right: “I’m willing to drop what I’m doing right now to make sure my assignment/chore/task is done right now.”
2. Completely — We may double-check our kids after they’ve completed a task, and it may not be done neatly. It’s our responsibility to stay calm and not get angry at our kids for not doing the task right. Don’t scream or raise your voice, saying, “What’s wrong with you? I told you to do this, and you only did it halfway!”
Wrong Attitude: I want to finish this job quickly so that I can be done with it. I don’t care how well the job is done as long as it’s finished and over with.
Right Attitude: No matter how long it takes, I’ll complete this task to the best of my ability and by the strength that God provides to ensure that this job is done right and to its fullest extent.
3. Joyfully — Having a joyful heart attitude while completing a task is not always easy, but it must be carried out in a godly, God-honoring manner.
Wrong: Child walks to complete the task but with a sad, grumpy heart motive.
Right: Child walks to complete the task happily not because he likes doing it but because he know it’s the right thing to do and that it primarily glorifies his Heavenly Father above.
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~Mark and my precious daughter and potential mom one day, Rachel Shaw (learning how to be godly parents and children to bring God the glory in submissive obedience by His strength alone)