As a biblical counselor, I am grieved and burdened by the lack of active fathers today. Even in Christian circles, many men are failing in their God-given role as a father. Absentee fathers are an epidemic in our society. Some absentee fathers actually live in the home and somehow avoid raising their children!

I teach men to model Christ by being the “prophet, priest, and king (servant leader)” of their homes. By “prophet,” I simply mean that men are to speak the Word of God to their wives and children. By “priest,” I simply mean that men are to pray to God on behalf of wives and children. In these two roles, men are in a role of a “two-way” communicator. In the role of prophet, they direct their families to God’s Word by reading it and studying it as a family. As a priest, they talk to God about their family’s direction and ask Him to guide them. Men are to be the “two-way” communicators – from God and to God – for their families in the roles of prophet and priest.

As the king (or servant leader) of the home, men are to serve and shepherd their families. Jesus came to serve us as King and He did a wonderful job of service to all of us. This role as a provider, protector, and servant is vital as the man is a spiritual representative of the family. He is to lead his family to Christ.

I urge you men to have daily family devotionals and/or family worship times where you sing, praise, pray, and read God’s Word aloud as a family! Please take this responsibility seriously and begin today!

Eph. 6:4: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” – The Holy Bible : English standard version. 2001 (electronic ed.). Good News Publishers: Wheaton.

One final word of warning: Fathers who fail to “bring up” their children “in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” are neglecting their children and will most likely reap the result of ANGRY children.

For more on this topic, please order my booklet, Hope and Help for Husbands and Fathers from Focus Publishing ( I know of a couple of pastors who are giving this booklet away to their congregation for Father’s Day this year! I pray that they will yield fruit for many families this year!

-Mark (grateful to be a father yet I feel inadequate to uphold the awesome responsibilities of parenthood – I’m very thankful for my wife’s partnership!)