The world often teaches people that they need more self-control but that’s not what the Bible teaches.
The Bible teaches that SELF is NOT the source of control. Self is NEVER the source of power for control.
Instead, self is the OBJECT to be controlled by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the SOURCE of control that directs self. In the Bible, the “self” is also called the “flesh” and Romans 8:8 tells us that those who are in the flesh “cannot please God.”
What pleases God is Holy Spirit filled, directed, and empowered living which ALWAYS is in perfect agreement with true, biblical principles.
Christians are to yield themselves to the Holy Spirit’s leading and not fulfill the desires of the flesh. Self is to be under the control of the Holy Spirit at all times. That’s what we biblical counselors promote – Holy Spirit led living in accordance with God’s Word.
-Mark (biblical teachings make more sense to me daily)